The Vexing Problem of the ‘Medium Friend’
Our story is not unusual. In your 30s and 40s, plenty of new people enter your life, through work, children’s play dates and, of course, Facebook. But actual close friends — the kind you make in college, the kind you call in a crisis — those are in shorter supply.
Why Is It Hard to Make Friends Over 30? (Published 2012)
I believe most people we spend time with should be “low maintenance, high intimacy
Andrew Ettinger • 30 more things I believe
Friendship is a bulwark against stasis, a potential source of creativity and renewal.Practically everyone who studies friendship says this in some form or another: What makes friendship so fragile is also exactly what makes it so special. You have to continually opt in. That you choose it is what gives it its value.