Maybe what’s at work is a kind of interior slut-shaming—if I suggest that such a damaging moment was the cause of my sexual activeness, then I disavow any good feelings I might have around my own sexuality. In other words, victimhood came to shape my own concept of my sexuality. When I sat down to write a memoir of my adolescent sex life, for

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But still, it heartened me to know that my departure from Alexander’s life had wounded him so thoroughly that he felt the need to sabotage me, and it took a long while for me to kill the urge to wound him back. I had never considered using the auspices of certain so-called feminist sex-panic movements to try to destroy his career, although I had

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