The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity - a book for anyone who has ever loved

To acknowledge jealousy is to admit love, competition, and comparison—all of which expose vulnerability. And even more so when you expose yourself to the one who hurt you.

The green-eyed monster taunts us at our most defenseless and puts us directly in touch with our insecurities, our fear of loss, and our lack of self-worth.

Why so late? Like shame and guilt, it is a feeling that requires a level of cognitive development that can acknowledge a self and an other.

In a world where so many long-term relationships suffer much more from monotony and habituation than from unsettling feelings like jealousy, this erotic wrath may serve a purpose, if we are willing to bear the attendant vulnerability.