The secret to modern friendship, according to real friends
Some social scientists and even philosophers suggest a different vision of friendship, in which friendship is conceived not as a ledger of emotional debits and credits but as an organic creation — an artwork — built by the friends themselves. Conceived in this way, friendships are not ranked or stratified along a bright line from BFF to near strang... See more
Lisa Miller • The Vexing Problem of the ‘Medium Friend’
Alex Burns added
Even friendship is often cemented with sacrifice. Sharing secrets and intimate details, for example, makes you vulnerable but engenders trust. In my own life, one of the things that helps me feel closer to someone is wasting time together . My childhood and teenage friends are dear to me in part because we've sacrificed countless hours to each othe
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Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close - 'A life-affirming guide to creating and preserving great friendships' (Elle)
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it was quickly apparent that years only matter in a friendship if you let them, and we bonded in the course of shared work.
starkandmain.org • Celebrating a Life on Fire: Remembering Luis Palau — Stark & Main
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* “Like a marriage, the best friendships require investment, compromise, and sacrifice. By creating shared alignment, trust, and companionship, strong friendships nourish the soul and sharpen the mind.”
David Perell • The Fruits of Friendship - David Perell
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It may seem counter-intuitive to say that, in the face of the profound challenges our society faces, what we most need is the deliberate cultivation of friendship. But I also find myself thinking that this conclusion is, from one angle, inescapable. At the very least, it seems to me that we need such friendships as an anchor and a refuge from the d... See more
theconvivialsociety.substack.com • The Answer Is Not More Information
Alex Wittenberg added
A big project of mine over the next year will be writing about cultural scripts and expectations in friendship. Friendship is vastly undertheorized as compared to romantic relationships, but they’re just as important: they affect our quality of life in the most fundamental ways. Friendship is an entry point to everything: work, romance, sense of se... See more