The secret to desire in a long-term relationship | Esther Perel

In order to cultivate a successful, long-term relationship, you have to learn how to cultivate a genuine desire for each other, and desire has to be constantly rekindled. I’m not talking about sexual desire, though that is included; I’m talking about the spark that affirms in your gut, I want to be with that person for the rest of my life.

 I look at it, certainly, inside relationships and how we reconcile these two fundamental needs that often spring from different sources and pull us in different directions. And I also think that love and desire belong, a little bit, to both of these sets of human needs, as well. So they relate, and they also conflict. And herein lies the mys