A great deal of life will always suck. There will be moments when we’re riding high and moments when we can’t bear to get out of bed. Both are normal. Both in fact require a little perspective.

If you never accept the darkness inherent in the human condition you’ll never find lasting joy. This is because whenever unpleasant experiences or situations arise, you’ll only want them to go away. But, as Hayes’s work and my own experience with OCD show, it is this very resistance that makes them stickier and stronger, and thus more entrenched.