The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

Make a commitment that when a friend or partner is hurting, you will try to simply be present for them while they are in pain without trying to artificially cheer them up.

Sevens don’t want to be tied down.

Because they like to be in charge, free from limitations imposed on them by others, Eights often work for themselves.

For a moment we sat in silence, considering Paul’s words as they spun and glimmered in the air between us like motes in a shaft of sunlight.

How can I jam as many pleasurable experiences into this moment as possible? Their source of satisfaction is never found within them or in the present moment; it’s always external and in the far-distant future. There’s always something they haven’t tried, something more to do, some new exploit to plan. All this hopped-up behavior is how Sevens diver

Sevens have to learn how to embrace and steward their suffering rather than run from it.

Remember, for a Nine who lacks self-knowledge this is not necessarily conscious behavior. They’re just humming along in the trance of their Nine-ness.

Eight identifies with the easily preyed upon and rushes to their aid.

From personal experience, I can tell you not wanting to stick to playing what’s on the page is a pattern with many Sevens. Helen Palmer calls them the Epicures because of the way they delight in all the best possibilities in life. If you don’t believe me, take a Seven to dinner. They’re usually the first person to smell what the menu special is. “H

If Nines fall too deeply into this hazy trance, they become increasingly absent-minded and less productive, which only causes more problems for them in their relationships.