When you feel paralyzed in the face of a decision, consult someone who won’t tell you what to do but rather will help you tease out what you want to do—then do it!

Remember that what feels like intense, terrible conflict to you might just be a typical disagreement for someone else. Take a breath and engage.

Nines need to know that when they discover right action and move toward it, a feeling of self-worth will emerge in them.

Scrupulously avoid anything that promises a life of peace and tranquility without conflict or pain. Whatever it is will probably end you up in rehab.

Wake up and say yes to the adventure of your own life!

you’re a Peacemaker, your greatest motivation in life has been to avoid conflict and experience inner harmony, but what looks like peace is really just your desire to be unaffected by life.

Security. When Nines are feeling comfortable and safe in the world they move to the positive side of Three (the Performer), where they are more goal-oriented, decisive, self-confident and in touch with their life’s agenda. Flourishing Nines struggle less with inertia, take command of their lives and believe their presence in the world matters. More

Stress. In stress Nines start to act like unhealthy Sixes (the Loyalists). They become overcommitted, worried, rigid, wary of others and anxious, even though they don’t know why. These Nines become more self-doubting, which makes decision making even more difficult than usual. Interestingly, they also become reactive—a big departure for a number

Nines tend to sell themselves short at work. They have considerable skills but undervalue them. Though capable of holding positions at the highest levels in the professional world, most Nines gravitate toward middle management where they can avoid the kind of conflicts and stress associated with leadership such as making unpopular decisions,