I’ve been thinking a lot about these “gut feelings,” or the intelligence buried under our moods. They’re the instincts that don’t necessarily line up with our more intellectual frameworks, which is why following them can feel risky or chaotic (backing away from that piece, in the moment, would have felt like giving up). But when I think back to tim... See more

people who are being selectively agentic often have a kind of faulty sensory appreciation. Perhaps relationships feel hard for you, they take willpower, so it’s tempting to believe that you’re Actually Trying, that you’ve brought the full weight of your genius to bear on the problem. You might even take some pride in the struggle. Like rigid postur... See more