The practice of analysis, self-doubt and faultfinding muddies your view of relationships and makes frogs out of princes.

Nothing needs to be “done” about moods. They come and go on their own. The less attention we give them, the better.

A couple’s sex life reflects this principle during the first two years of marriage. At first, sex is the major source of intimacy in marriage. As the relationship evolves, intimacy comes more from sharing and companionship than from sex. These more subtle forms of intimacy are also more profound. An

The conclusion is that all feelings come from our thoughts.

It can help to understand that your partner is not their frailties. When people get caught up in their thinking and become upset, they all have one thing in common: unresponsive, if not dysfunctional, coping mechanisms. Just as a person slipping on ice will contort their body in strange ways to regain their balance, the person emotionally

You can’t solve another person’s problem. He or she will disqualify any solutions you propose, the “yes but” responds. Your solutions won’t fit within that person’s thought system because there aren’t any solutions there. That is why the problem is a problem. After you listen to people and their problems long enough, you begin to realize the

Here is how the process works. When our thinking is negative, our feelings and perceptions will exactly reflect those negative thoughts and feelings in that moment. If we trust those perceptions and feelings, our lives will take a turn for the worse.

It is easy to get so focused, so involved, in the goal that we lose sight of the purpose behind the goal—to increase well-being and closeness.

couples can lose sight of the closeness in their marriage when they search for the specific conditions they think they want. Often, the only reason they want those specific conditions is that they assume they will bring more love.