The Relationship Handbook
If you try to coax him out of it, you are likely to end up in a low mood yourself.
George S. Pransky • The Relationship Handbook
We had gotten so used to feeling good, we couldn’t stand to fight anymore.
George S. Pransky • The Relationship Handbook
People make a commitment in order to enjoy someone or something, not because they already enjoy someone or something.
George S. Pransky • The Relationship Handbook
Just as physical pain informs us about what’s happening in the body, emotional pain informs us about our thinking and understanding.
George S. Pransky • The Relationship Handbook
If a person is angry, the listener must look beyond the situation to the pain we feel when we lose sight of another’s innocence. Compassion reminds us of our own humanity. It lets us relate to others without getting involved in the details. When we feel compassion for others, their spirits will rise because we appreciate their distress, yet our spi
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When people lose sight of the source of feelings, they mistakenly attribute their feelings to outside sources. They mistakenly think that our feelings inform us about the world at large.
George S. Pransky • The Relationship Handbook
Negative emotion tells us our mental health is suffering, just as physical pain signals that we are abusing our bodies.
George S. Pransky • The Relationship Handbook
Those same moments also occur when the partners clear their minds and spend a few moments together with a high level of presence.
George S. Pransky • The Relationship Handbook
Today’s complaints and criticisms are merely the most recent “cause” of dissatisfaction. The dissatisfied person is predisposed to seeing faults and shortcomings in the same way that the worrier is predisposed to see what might go wrong.