Self-discrepancy theory , proposed by psychologist E. Tory Higgins, says that negative emotions often arise from the gap between our actual self and our ideal self (who we hope to be) or ought self (who we think we should be).

Every time we outsource our taste — dressing, decorating, creating to impress instead of express — that gap widens.

Journaling. Collecting. Observing beauty.

It’s connecting mastery with individuality.

It’s how you build meaning into the everyday.

Every choice can become a breadcrumb trail back to your inner world.

You don’t even need to know why you like what you like.

Over time, familiar themes emerge (like handwriting). That becomes your signature.

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