The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness

connect with the heart. Remember that the one who harms us does not need to be provoked further and neither do we.

How is it that these circumstances have the power to propel me like a Ping-Pong ball from hope to fear, from happiness to misery?’

So with this person who is scaring us or insulting us, do we retaliate as we have one hundred thousand times before, or do we start to get smart and finally hold our seat?

Without the office bully, how could we ever get the chance to know the energy of anger so intimately that it loses its destructive power?

When we find ourselves captured by aggression, we can remember this: there is no basis for striking out or for repressing.

We can slow down and ask ourselves, ‘Who is this monolithic me that has been so offended? And who is this other person who can trigger me like this?

Beliefs and ideals have become just another way to put up walls. The third

So whenever we wander off, we gently encourage ourselves to ‘stay’ and settle down. Are we experiencing restlessness? Stay! Discursive mind? Stay! Are fear and loathing out of control? Stay! Aching knees and throbbing back? Stay! What’s for lunch? Stay! What am I doing here? Stay! I can’t stand this another minute! Stay!

What do I do when I feel anxious and depressed, bored or lonely?