The One Inside

Parts have their own specific agenda, but the Self’s agenda is for healing and reconciliation of the system. You can let your parts know they do not have all the information you do; they do not have the whole scene.

Parts do not have the clarity of Self. The parts who intellectualize, analyze, and ask “Why?” do not have Self’s full perspective.

It is one of my markers; a marker I am in a part. When I notice this, I shift from the intellectualizing, Figure-It-Out part to a more heart opening.

Then let them know how you feel and ask them what they are afraid would happen if they did not do what they do. This will give you a hint into what they are protecting.

smile at both and let them know I see how they are both in the same memory, the same scene of my childhood. I wonder what they are protecting and I get a deep feeling of sadness in my eyes and chest.

The “family” idea of IFS is just this, we have parts who interact with each other, parts who align together, and parts who go head-to-head against one another. Parts don’t just interact with us; they interact with one another.

what they are afraid would happen if I did not listen to them.

We are not trying to get rid of parts, and parts do not become integrated into the Self. We ask for separation, an unblending of parts.

What is it like for you to be curious about a feeling you are experiencing instead of immediately trying to push it away? I wonder how it would be for you if you leaned into a feeling with curiosity, interest, and attention.