The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture

Trauma is not what happens to you but what happens inside you” is how I formulate it.

Just as I have never met anyone who chose to become addicted, neither have I met anyone whose addictions did not, at their onset at least, provide for some essential human need.

Ask not why the addiction, but why the pain

Children, especially highly sensitive children, can be wounded in multiple ways: by bad things happening, yes, but also by good things not happening, such as their emotional needs for attunement not being met.