Many have seen the Matrix but it seems fewer grasp just how powerful the 'spoon boy's' message was when Neo first visits the oracle... The boy says to Neo:

"Do not try and bend the spoon, that's impossible. Instead, only try to realize the truth...there is no spoon. Then you'll see that it is not the spoon that bends, it is only yourself."

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The good news is that having high agency is an internal state of mind, and it can be absorbed. It means freeing oneself from artificial constraints and defying them. It’s Morpheus challenging Neo in The Matrix: “Do you think that’s air you’re breathing now?” The limitations we’ve accepted as natural — degrees, credentials, specialized skills, years... See more