what you owe is to yourself: a steady nervous system, a baseline of peace, the ability to trust that if something feels off, you don’t have to stick around long enough to find out just how off it really is

so let them . let them flake. let them disappear. let them ghost. let them cancel last minute and call it “busy.” let them be inconsistent. let them forget to ask how you’re doing. let them not show up. and then stop explaining it away. stop turning their apathy into depth. stop turning their detachment into mystery. stop making excuses for... See more

you don’t have to convince anyone of your value.

stop interpreting low effort as complexity. it’s not. it’s just low effort. and the longer you keep participating in it, the more your body forgets what it feels like to be respected without having to earn it.

if they wanted to talk to you, they would. if they wanted to prioritize you, they would. if they wanted to treat you well, you wouldn’t have to keep asking.