The Gossip Trap

The difference between the horror of crabs in a bucket and a human tribe or group living in a gossip trap is actually that the humans are generally quite happy down there in the bucket. It’s our natural environment. Most people  like  the trap. Oh, it’s terrible for the accused, the exiled, the uncool. But the gossip trap is comfortable.

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A “gossip trap”   is when your whole world doesn’t exceed Dunbar’s number and to organize your society you are forced to discuss mostly people. It is  Mean Girls  (and mean boys), but forever. And yes, gossip can act as a leveling mechanism and social power has a bunch of positives—it’s the stuff of life, really. But it’s a terrible

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