The key is to separate people from their behaviors—to address what they’re doing, not who they are

Being “in control” isn’t always about the desire to manipulate situations, but often it’s about the need to manage perception.

When we go against the grain and put ourselves and our work out in the world, some people will feel threatened

shame resilience: Name it. Talk about it. Own your story. Tell the story.

Guilt = I did something bad. Shame = I am bad.

The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.

to believe in myself and the possibility of living a different life.

Courage is telling our story, not being immune to criticism.

As I started analyzing the stories and looking for re-occurring themes, I realized that the patterns generally fell into one of two columns; for simplicity’s sake, I first labeled these Do and Don’t. The Do column was brimming with words like worthiness, rest, play, trust, faith, intuition, hope, authenticity, love, belonging, joy, gratitude, and c