When an experience is framed in the GAP, you haven’t learned from it. You haven’t taken ownership of it. Until you actively learn from a GAP-experience, you’re stuck. You won’t be able to move forward until you frame the experience as a GAIN. Until you choose to be grateful for the experience and better off because it happened. Once you get

When your happiness is tied to something in the future, then your present is diminished. You don’t feel happy, confident, or successful. But maybe in the future you will be, or so the logic goes.

“The day you stop racing is the day you win the race.” —Bob Marley

the classic book Escape from Freedom,26 Erich Fromm defines two types of freedom: Freedom from (which is external) Freedom to (which is internal)

“Training yourself to be happy is completely internal. There is no external progress, no external validation. You’re competing against yourself—it is a single-player game.”

hedonic adaptation.

“If you focus on what you lack, you lose what you have. If you focus on what you have, you gain what you lack.”

and measurable progress. Your progress will be startling to

Obsessive passion is highly impulsive and fueled by suppressed emotions and unresolved internal conflict. You become obsessed with something to the point of an unhealthy desperation. You believe you need it, and can’t be happy without