The Gap and the Gain
the classic book Escape from Freedom,26 Erich Fromm defines two types of freedom: Freedom from (which is external) Freedom to (which is internal)
Dan Sullivan • The Gap and the Gain
As the American author Florence Shinn wrote, “Faith knows it has already received and acts accordingly.”
Dan Sullivan • The Gap and the Gain
You also love what you’re working on and building. You’re committed and focused, but you’re not trying to rush to the next place to fill some unresolved need.
Dan Sullivan • The Gap and the Gain
Playing a longer game allows you to embrace being “here.” Yes, you have goals and vision, but you’re completely happy where you’re at. You’re here, and you love being here. You love what your life is like. You’re blown away by your GAINS. You appreciate everything and everyone around you. You’re genuinely happy.
Dan Sullivan • The Gap and the Gain
This is the counterintuitive reality: by no longer needing what you want, you are actually far more enabled to get it. You can freely perform and be in the flow, rather than obsessing over how it will turn out.
Dan Sullivan • The Gap and the Gain
Harmonious passion, on the other hand, is intrinsically motivated and healthy. When you are harmoniously passionate, you control your passion rather than having it control you. You’re intuitive and thoughtful about what you’re doing, not reactive and irrational. You’re purposeful and goal-directed, not “need”
Dan Sullivan • The Gap and the Gain
Obsessive passion is highly impulsive and fueled by suppressed emotions and unresolved internal conflict. You become obsessed with something to the point of an unhealthy desperation. You believe you need it, and can’t be happy without
Dan Sullivan • The Gap and the Gain
Psychologists have separated needs and wants into two core types of passion: obsessive and harmonious.
Dan Sullivan • The Gap and the Gain
Having an intense commitment to succeed, and Having a healthy detachment from what you’re doing