
the friendship theory of everything

The thing I’ve learned over time is that friendships are not fungible—no two people are the same, obviously, but also you can’t replicate the experience of someone knowing you through a particular era of your life. You can never go back to that period of your life; you can never replace the people who witnessed you and supported you. To me, relinqu... See more
friends shape your identity
I absolutely think that choosing in an intentional way the people that we’re closest to is the most important thing that we can do to affect what we want.
Farnam Street • Luke Burgis: The Power of Mimetic Desire [The Knowledge Project Ep. #138]
the convoy theory (that we are accompanied through life by a relatively stable group of supportive friends).
Robin Dunbar • Friends: Understanding the Power of our Most Important Relationships
When we regularly place ourselves in physical proximity with others we can connect to, we are writing our own fate, acknowledging that we have control over our friendships, and upping our chances of connection.