
The Essential Enneagram

Raising a Secure Child: How Circle of Security Parenting Can Help You Nurture Your Child's Attachment, Emotional Resilience, and Freedom to Explore
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Trying to be special, different, or better requires a lot of effort and thinking. It is based on dissatisfaction with your self, and such effortful thinking now adds stress to your dissatisfaction. Realizing the Principles allows you to accept the perfection of how you are at each moment.
Dicken Bettinger • Coming Home: Uncovering the Foundations of Psychological Well-being
The Mindful Way through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness
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First, embody Type 3's ability to prioritize tasks over feelings and work to become more efficient and pragmatic. Focus on work, goals, and practical tasks to divert attention from the emotions you dwell on more than you need to. Let go of whatever feelings threaten to distract you from what needs to be done. Get interested in the positive emotions
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