An avoidant isn’t usually running because you’re overbearing, begging or being needy. They usually run because they’re overwhelmed by the regular demands of a relationship because it scares them to be that intimate and commit. Usually when they say they want peace what they really mean is they don’t want to feel shame... See more

When someone chooses avoidance over accountability, they’re not just protecting themselves, they’re actively choosing to deny your humanity in the process. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘳𝘶𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵? 𝘞𝘢𝘵𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮 𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘤𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘢𝘴 𝘢 𝘮𝘢𝘱 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘴. What makes their avoidance so... See more

2. They weren’t taught to name their emotions. Sadness, fear, shame… all get filed under “angry.” It’s not emotional intelligence — it’s emotional limitation. 3. They’re the ones activated. But instead of saying “I feel overwhelmed,” they make you the problem. If... See more