The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover

If you feel a part of your lover unopen, inhale her tension, warm it with the heat of your love-desire, and fill her with your outward thrust of gentle openness. Breathe her entire body as if it were yours. Breathe her body to open, moment by moment, kiss by kiss, thrust by thrust. Stay with her, sometimes still, sometimes savage, feeling into her

Rather than dispersing this energy in mental fantasy, a man should learn to circulate his heightened energy. He should breathe fully, circulating the energy fully throughout his body. He should treat his heightened energy as a gift which could heal and rejuvenate his body, and, through his service, heal the world. Through these means, his desire is

Conscious breathing in the direction of the genitals during sex increases the oxygen intake and enhances the whole metabolism, providing you with sexual vitality and aliveness. Throughout lovemaking, simply paying acute attention to the process of the in-breaths and the out-breaths can shift you to another realm of experience.

When in doubt, start with the stroke. What are you feeling in your finger as you stroke? Does your finger feel warm or cool? Dense or feather-light? Does it seem to be rising or falling? Then, pull back the lens until you are able to ask the same questions of your body as a whole. What is happening in your back, your neck, your heart? Do you feel a