The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover

Practicing love often means feeling through fear: intentionally opening yourself when you would rather close down, giving yourself when you would rather hide. Love means recognizing yourself as the open fullness of this moment regardless of its contents—trenchant thoughts, enchanting pleasures, heavy emotions, or gnawing pains—and surrendering all

Take care to use your eyes consciously. Just as you should keep the tongue relaxedly pressed against the roof of your mouth

while your eyes are closed, focus your gaze at infinity.

Enlightening your sex involves cultivating the capacity to sustain high energy over long periods of time while remaining relaxed and open. It

If you want a deep life, deepen your sexual energy.

Exhalation is a form of surrender.

The tongue and genitals share many similarities. They are both superlative givers and receivers of energy.

As you look up with your eyes while contracting your pelvic floor and exhaling your energy upward along your spine, it is also quite possible that you will feel yourself “leaving your body” out through the top of your head.

It is unfortunate that our culture leaves most people completely uneducated in the higher enjoyments and deeper blisses of sexuality. In order to move to a new level of sexuality, you can retrain