It is unfortunate that our culture leaves most people completely uneducated in the higher enjoyments and deeper blisses of sexuality. In order to move to a new level of sexuality, you can retrain

The tongue and genitals share many similarities. They are both superlative givers and receivers of energy.

Enlightening your sex involves cultivating the capacity to sustain high energy over long periods of time while remaining relaxed and open. It

As you exhale, surrender yourself, giving yourself totally, so that no love is left ungiven.

If you want to increase genital arousal, emphasize inhalation. If you want to decrease genital arousal, emphasize exhalation. As you inhale, open yourself to fully receive love, life, and energy.

Take care to use your eyes consciously. Just as you should keep the tongue relaxedly pressed against the roof of your mouth

Practicing love often means feeling through fear: intentionally opening yourself when you would rather close down, giving yourself when you would rather hide. Love means recognizing yourself as the open fullness of this moment regardless of its contents—trenchant thoughts, enchanting pleasures, heavy emotions, or gnawing pains—and surrendering all

you stop depleting your energies through these habitual means, you may first notice yourself getting anxious to some degree. This is because your body is being filled with more energy than it is used to handling.

If you want a deep life, deepen your sexual energy.