you stop depleting your energies through these habitual means, you may first notice yourself getting anxious to some degree. This is because your body is being filled with more energy than it is used to handling.

energy builds in your genitals during sex, exhale and contract the floor of your pelvis, pulling upward slightly, as if you were trying to stop yourself from urinating. Feel or imagine your sexual energy moving up along the line of your spine into your head as you exhale. Then, as you inhale, draw the energy down the front of your body, so that

During sex, you can place your tongue directly on your lover’s body to give and receive energy. You can exchange energy with your lover by placing your tongue in contact with

It is unfortunate that our culture leaves most people completely uneducated in the higher enjoyments and deeper blisses of sexuality. In order to move to a new level of sexuality, you can retrain

If you want to increase genital arousal, emphasize inhalation. If you want to decrease genital arousal, emphasize exhalation. As you inhale, open yourself to fully receive love, life, and energy.

sexual embrace becomes a spiritual revelation.

while your eyes are closed, focus your gaze at infinity.

Exhalation is a form of surrender.

Practicing love often means feeling through fear: intentionally opening yourself when you would rather close down, giving yourself when you would rather hide. Love means recognizing yourself as the open fullness of this moment regardless of its contents—trenchant thoughts, enchanting pleasures, heavy emotions, or gnawing pains—and surrendering all