The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover

Practicing love often means feeling through fear: intentionally opening yourself when you would rather close down, giving yourself when you would rather hide. Love means recognizing yourself as the open fullness of this moment regardless of its contents—trenchant thoughts, enchanting pleasures, heavy emotions, or gnawing pains—and surrendering all

The tongue and genitals share many similarities. They are both superlative givers and receivers of energy.

The superior lover is one who practices authentic loving in the form of his or her chosen lifestyle, rather than stopping short and building a comfortable cage of familiar habits inside the confines of

Enlightening your sex involves cultivating the capacity to sustain high energy over long periods of time while remaining relaxed and open. It

you stop depleting your energies through these habitual means, you may first notice yourself getting anxious to some degree. This is because your body is being filled with more energy than it is used to handling.

Your eyes are strong regulators of energy.

Take care to use your eyes consciously. Just as you should keep the tongue relaxedly pressed against the roof of your mouth

It is unfortunate that our culture leaves most people completely uneducated in the higher enjoyments and deeper blisses of sexuality. In order to move to a new level of sexuality, you can retrain

As you look up with your eyes while contracting your pelvic floor and exhaling your energy upward along your spine, it is also quite possible that you will feel yourself “leaving your body” out through the top of your head.