
The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover

Practicing love often means feeling through fear: intentionally opening yourself when you would rather close down, giving yourself when you would rather hide. Love means recognizing yourself as the open fullness of this moment regardless of its contents—trenchant thoughts, enchanting pleasures, heavy emotions, or gnawing pains—and surrendering all
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The tongue and genitals share many similarities. They are both superlative givers and receivers of energy.
David Deida • The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover
The superior lover is one who practices authentic loving in the form of his or her chosen lifestyle, rather than stopping short and building a comfortable cage of familiar habits inside the confines of
David Deida • The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover
Enlightening your sex involves cultivating the capacity to sustain high energy over long periods of time while remaining relaxed and open. It
David Deida • The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover
you stop depleting your energies through these habitual means, you may first notice yourself getting anxious to some degree. This is because your body is being filled with more energy than it is used to handling.
David Deida • The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover
Your eyes are strong regulators of energy.
David Deida • The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover
Take care to use your eyes consciously. Just as you should keep the tongue relaxedly pressed against the roof of your mouth
David Deida • The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover
It is unfortunate that our culture leaves most people completely uneducated in the higher enjoyments and deeper blisses of sexuality. In order to move to a new level of sexuality, you can retrain
David Deida • The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover
As you look up with your eyes while contracting your pelvic floor and exhaling your energy upward along your spine, it is also quite possible that you will feel yourself “leaving your body” out through the top of your head.