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The End of Mom Guilt
But I love being a mom. I’m not always great at it—let’s be very clear about that. Sometimes I yell. I don’t enjoy playing make-believe, and I mostly leave the work of crawling on the floor and pushing Hot Wheels around the rug to Ken and the grandparents. Sometimes, I can get very caught up in my work and have a hard time focusing on what my son i... See more
In Defense of Motherhood
“I’m a working parent committed to loving my kid and doing my job, even if it feels messy sometimes.”
Yael Schonbrun • Work, Parent, Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connecti on (When Everything Feels Like Too Much)
As a memoir writer, it’s my job to answer the question: What is it that I am feeling, exactly? Not what am I meant to feel, or what is it politic to feel, or what is it convenient to feel. As Hemingway says in Death in the Afternoon, the greatest difficulty in writing is “knowing truly what you really felt, rather than what you were supposed to fee
... See moreClaire Dederer • Monsters
Our culture is really doing a ten out of ten job in caring in the worst possible ways. There is no infrastructure to support parents of caregivers, so care makes you poor and exhausts you. (Solution: Pay caregivers! Universal and affordable childcare and eldercare!) Parenting has become more instrumental than it used to be: kids are a project, anot... See more
Anne Helen Petersen • "I Went Into Motherhood Determined Not to Lose Myself in It."
It’s an immense privilege to consider work as anything beyond basic survival. A life dedicated to creating art of any kind is, for most of us, precarious and unsustainable. A modern-day marriage of two artists is as financially sturdy as sand. I knew intellectually that I wanted to be a mother more than I needed to be a writer. I just hadn’t calcul
... See moreJennifer Romolini • Ambition Monster: A Memoir
For American mothers, guilt is an emotional tax we pay for going to work, not buying organic vegetables, or plopping our kids in front of the television so we can surf the Internet or make dinner. If we feel guilty, then it’s easier to do these things. We’re not just selfish. We’ve “paid” for our lapses.