A good marriage is kept alive by seeing the other in a constantly changing light rather than settling into a single impression.

Symbolically speaking, this is when we lose track of our own story, when the divine thing we glimpsed grows faint and feels inconsequential, so we lose hope that life will ever be different.

Like allowing your eyes to adjust on a dark moon, synthetic lights must be extinguished before constellations will appear.

set manageable goals for herself again, and move with nurturing discipline toward them.

More effective than giving advice or offering solutions, reflecting someone as they truly are is paradoxically what allows them to step into their own potential.

These two streams of attention—surface and depth—are always running simultaneously and, at any given moment, we can choose to focus on either or both.

Unfortunately, the call can also look like a physical crisis or an event that splays your life apart like a bolt of lightning. It’s often in these low moments that we finally turn toward the Imaginal World for guidance.

When I was brave enough, I began to share my passion for dreamwork with others. I gave talks at local libraries and hosted small workshops. I built my first website for the Dream School in 2001. I began to write a weekly dream column called “Dreamspeak” for newspapers and magazines. None of these things were easy and I had to fight through my anxie

Unlike fitting in, belonging had to be dynamic. This meant that exile and loneliness were equally vital on the path of true belonging. This became a core idea in the book. My old pattern of belonging had to dissolve and decay for a new, more sophisticated paradox to emerge.