The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
by Meg Jay
updated 17h ago
by Meg Jay
updated 17h ago
Ben Franklin effect tells us that one favor begets more favors and, over time, small favors beget larger ones.
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One thing this has taught me is that a good story goes further in the twentysomething years than perhaps at any other time in life. College is done and résumés are fledgling, so the personal narrative is one of the few things currently under our control. As a twentysomething, life is still more about potential than proof. Those who can tell a good
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Shoulds can masquerade as high standards or lofty goals, but they are not the same. Goals direct us from the inside, but shoulds are paralyzing judgments from the outside. Goals feel like authentic dreams while shoulds feel like oppressive obligations. Shoulds set up a false dichotomy between either meeting an ideal or being a failure, between perf
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But couples who “live together first” are actually less satisfied with their marriages and more likely to divorce than couples who do not. This is what sociologists call the cohabitation effect.
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The more you use your brain, the more brain you will have to use. —George A. Dorsey, anthropologist
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Be ruled by time, the wisest counselor of all. —Plutarch, historian To achieve great things, two things are needed: a plan, and not quite enough time. —Leonard Bernstein, composer
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Many cultures make use of memento mori to remind us of our mortality, the skeletons and dying flowers often represented in art or on display in the marketplace. In past centuries, it was common to sit for portraits while holding a dead rose or to carry a watch shaped like a skull in order to signify time running out. In my practice, I notice that m
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Twentysomethings who take the time to explore and also have the nerve to make commitments along the way construct stronger identities
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Carstensen used virtual reality to help twentysomethings imagine their future selves. In one condition of her experiment, twenty-five subjects entered an immersive virtual reality environment and, in a virtual mirror, they saw digital representations of their current selves. In the other condition, twenty-five different subjects entered the same vi
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