The Dance of Anger
There is one form of anger work that aggressive-patterned people frequently do need, however, and that is being physically contained while they let their anger rip.
Steven Kessler • The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity
The more we listen to our own anger, the better a listener it becomes. It becomes less of a weapon and more of a path to greater attunement with our own needs and desires. If we do not starve our anger of attention, of affection, of intimacy, we will seldom find it desperately clamoring to take up space where it wasn’t meant to. An anger that is co
... See moreCole Arthur Riley • This Here Flesh: Spirituality, Liberation, and the Stories That Make Us
As the anger rises, however, it creates an inner conflict because feeling angry is against the Rules, unless it is clearly justified and righteous. So the anger is initially held in and denied, while the mind seeks a righteous justification. When one is found, the held-in anger bursts out in a torrent of judgments and accusations.
Steven Kessler • The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity
ANGER IS FUEL. We feel it and we want to do something. Hit someone, break something, throw a fit, smash a fist into the wall, tell those bastards. But we are nice people, and what we do with our anger is stuff it, deny it, bury it, block it, hide it, lie about it, medicate it, muffle it, ignore it. We do everything but listen to it.