And what’s worse is that this logic isn’t seen as callous, it’s seen as savvy. Strategic. Emotionally intelligent, even. We are applauded for cutting ties quickly, for “protecting our peace”, for “honouring our intuition”. But often, what we actually honour is a profound fear of emotional labour. Of repair. Of the slow, clumsy choreography of two p... See more

We have normalised connection as a trial subscription: no long-term commitment, cancel anytime, no emotional penalty.

But ghosting is also an x-ray of something deeper in our cultural anatomy, a generation allergic to discomfort. Not tragedy – we can binge that on Netflix. Not catastrophe – we’ll post solidarity in the comments. What unnerves us is the mundane, slow-burn discomfort of staying in the room with another flawed human being when things get unpoetic. Wh... See more