The Courage To Be Disliked: How to free yourself, change your life and achieve real happiness

There is no need to compete with anyone, and one has no use for destinations. As long as you are dancing, you will get somewhere.

Yes. It is a series of moments called ‘now’. We can live only in the here and now. Our lives exist only in moments. Adults who do not know this attempt to impose ‘linear’ lives onto young people. Their thinking is that staying on the conventional tracks—good university, big company, stable household—is a happy life. But life is not made up of lines

happiness is the feeling of contribution.

We are beings who choose freedom while aspiring to happiness.

Do you see it now? In a word, happiness is the feeling of contribution.

PHILOSOPHER: Does one accept oneself on the level of acts, or on the level of being? This is truly a question that relates to the courage to be happy.

Work in the home, childrearing, contributing to the local society, hobbies and all manner of other things are work.

‘If there are ten people, one will be someone who criticises you no matter what you do. This person will come to dislike you, and you will not learn to like him either. Then, there will be two others who accept everything about you and whom you accept too, and you will become close friends with them.

People with neurotic lifestyles tend to sprinkle their speech with such words as ‘everyone’ and ‘always’ and ‘everything’.