The Courage To Be Disliked: How to free yourself, change your life and achieve real happiness

do you focus only on your shortcomings, and why have you decided to not start liking yourself? It’s because you are overly afraid of being disliked by other people and getting hurt in your interpersonal relationships.

Even if you do derive joy from being praised, it is the same as being dependent on vertical relationships, and acknowledging that you have no ability. Because giving praise is a judgement that is passed by a person of ability onto a person without ability.

feel lonely, we need other people.

view of the human being as ‘I as a whole’, as an indivisible being that cannot be broken down into parts, is referred to as ‘holism’.

So, you neither praise nor rebuke? PHILOSOPHER: That’s right, one neither praises nor rebukes. This kind of assistance, which is based on horizontal relationships, is referred to in Adlerian psychology as ‘encouragement’.

When trying to be recognised by others, almost all people treat satisfying other people’s expectations as the means to that end. And that is in accordance with the stream of thought of reward-and-punishment education that says one will be praised if one takes appropriate action. If, for example, the main point of your job turns out to be satisfying

If you consider things at the level of being, we are of use to others and have worth just by being here. This is an indisputable fact.

In short, that ‘freedom is being disliked by other people’. YOUTH: Huh? What was that? PHILOSOPHER: It’s that you are disliked by someone. It is proof that you are exercising your freedom and living in freedom, and a sign that you are living in accordance with your own principles.

Adler’s view, ‘It is only when a person is able to feel that he has worth that he can possess courage.’