“Creative work is often framed as divine inspiration (and sometimes it is!) but talk to any great painter, writer or musician and they’ll tell you how much unseen labor goes into what often looks effortless. While picking a name is more art than science, having a process results in a name that’s more intentional (and usually better).”

When things start collapsing, don’t reach for the safest option. Reach for the truest one. Because staying inside something you already know is failing is just another way of trying to buy time, and time doesn’t work that way.

When my daughter looks at herself in the mirror, she is IN LOVE. She adorns herself with costume jewelry and worships her image. She tells me how she loves her hair and begs me to put lipstick on her. This is the same girl I refused to buy gendered toys for, whose mother has worn lipstick only twice in the last three years. I never taught her how... See more

. I am the dirty girl who over-analyzes culture for a living because it makes her feel in control. Most people in our industry have similar rejection-based mythologies, and many have a hurt high schooler living inside of them still.

I recently did an NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) session with my friend and community member Elaina Noell, who is great at what she does. I answered some simple questions about what made me happy, and when she reflected it back to me, we realized that nearly everything I had named as “happiness” only arrived after I had received someone else’s... See more

My parents didn’t host parties or celebrate holidays much as I was growing up and I always felt the stinging lack of community in my life... and what is motherhood if not a white knuckled attempt to redo your own childhood?