The Art and Science of Trash Talk With Rafi Kohan
Cultivating intellectual humility by embracing criticism, finding joy in being wrong, and accelerating learning through public vulnerability
TRANSCRIPT
And especially like now that I've gotten to like a larger scale, I have like a professional army of people telling me when I'm stupid.
It can be very frightening and it's very tempting to like retreat back into like making foolproof arguments and like filling in all the holes.
But that slows down the rate of learning and to just be willing to like,
... See moremy main takeaways:
RISA Framework:
Before challenging, ask
1. Is the disagreement REAl or a misunderstanding?
2. Is it important enough to justify?
3. Is it specific enough to make progress?
4. Are u or the other person aligned in the objectives to participate in the convo.
Difficult to find alignment in interests to want to engage int he disagreement.... See more
RISA Framework:
Before challenging, ask
1. Is the disagreement REAl or a misunderstanding?
2. Is it important enough to justify?
3. Is it specific enough to make progress?
4. Are u or the other person aligned in the objectives to participate in the convo.
Difficult to find alignment in interests to want to engage int he disagreement.... See more
Train for any argument with Harvard’s former debate coach | Bo Seo
Understanding relationship conflicts as cycles of shame, defensiveness, and not feeling seen, with examples and de-escalation strategies.
TRANSCRIPT
This person feels like they're always defending themselves. This person feels like they're always defending themselves. But this defense feels like an attack to this person and this defense feels an attack to this person So it like you never do the dishes I am ashamed that I can keep up with the housework and that I keeping score You don do the
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