The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict

we choose to see others either as people like ourselves or as objects.

THE COLLUSION DIAGRAM

People want solutions. But notice that the preferred solution in each case is that others change. Should we be surprised, then, when conflicts linger and problems remain?

“Well, I guess you’ll have to take the truck then.

“But you see, no conflict can be solved so long as all parties are convinced they are right.

The Anatomy of Peace is the story of how they came together, how they help warring parents and children to come together, and how we too can find our way out of the struggles that weigh us down.

“The pyramid suggests that we should spend much more time and effort helping things go right than dealing with things that are going wrong. Unfortunately, however, these allocations of time and effort are typically reversed. We spend most of our time with others dealing with things that are going wrong. We try fixing our children, changing our spou

If we start seeing each other as objects, we’ll get to the point where we’ll need to see each other as disagreeable rather than as simply disagreeing.

“We’re quite happy to be here.