Flowing from the definition are these Three Coaching Principles, which are foundational behaviours: Be Lazy Be Curious Be Often

Hard Change involves saying no to some of what’s worked so far for Present You. Saying no now enables you to say yes to the promise of future rewards. You’re playing a longer-term, harder, bigger game, with a constant temptation to opt out for a short-term win. You’re potentially changing your beliefs and values, roles and relationships, and how

In Drive, Daniel H. Pink is clear on the three drivers that actually motivate people: autonomy, mastery, and purpose.

Here are some well-tested phrases you can add before any advice, which helps reduce the “because I’m saying it, it must be right”: Here’s my best guess... I may be wrong... I’m not sure if this will work/is useful/might be an option... This is just one idea/option/thought... This may be completely off-base...

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I’m not great with conflict, so when it’s going bad, I’ll tolerate it until I finally snap.

Generous appreciation sees the person they are beyond the things they do.

You find your way to the generous form of the act. You speak to the person and acknowledge their qualities, beyond what they have and haven’t done. You shine a light on who they are.

The power of the status quo is strong. Dark Side strong.