Morphological Analysis This is the process of matching up elements from different columns of attribute lists.

One way to see how prevalent projections are is to make a list of things that bother you about other people in your life. Then take these same things and think about how they appear in your own life. For example, I’d say, “I hate how my son Elliot bickers with his friend Claudia” since, not surprisingly, “I hate how I bicker with my wife.”

Experience has shown me that one of the main causes of losing sleep over a problem is that we think we are dealing with a question when in fact we are dealing with an answer (a solution) that turns out not to be a good fit to our actual problem. A way around this dilemma is to ask, “What would it do for me if I solved this problem?” The answer to t

2. Define the problem.5 Narrow down which problem you’re going to solve or which question you’re going to answer.

Things happen; we do things, and others do things. If you like what happens, keep doing what you are doing and hope it keeps working well. If you do not like what happens, do it differently next time. Reasons get in the way of this simple pragmatic approach.

The form I favor is point of view (POV). It is not a rigidly defined concept.1 Its purpose is to define what a person needs—not what we think she needs, rather what she actually needs.

A successful marriage results when both partners can just be happy being who they are and in so doing add to the enjoyment of each other.

ultimately it depends on the double bottom line: intention and attention. Do you really intend to do it? Are you willing to give it the attention it requires?

3. Ideate. Generate possible solutions using any means you like—brainstorming, mind mapping, sketching on napkins . . . however you work best. 4. Prototype. Without going crazy to make anything perfect (or even close to it), build your project in physical form, or develop the plans for what you’re going to enact. 5. Test and get feedback.