What if there is no way the world should be and no way the world shouldn’t be? What if the world just shows up the way the world shows up? What if the great opportunity of life isn’t in trying to get the world to be a certain way, but rather in learning from whatever the world gives us? What if curiosity and learning are really the big game, not

The To Me state of consciousness is synonymous with being below the line. From our perspective, 95% of all leaders (and people) spend 98% of their time in that state. If I am in the To Me consciousness, I see myself “at the effect of,” meaning that the cause of my condition is outside me. It is happening To Me. Whether I see the cause as another

our experience, most leaders replace natural wonder with “figuring it out,” a very different consciousness. Figuring it out presupposes that there is AN answer and the goal is to use the mind to find it.

Unarguable truth. Appreciation is most effective when it is unarguable (see Commitment 4). This prevents any judgments, comparisons, or conscious or unconscious challenges. In the context of appreciation, this is the difference between “That was a great report!” (arguable) and “I appreciate you for the detailed appendices in this report; I noticed

As Me leaders realize this oneness. It is not simply a philosophy or belief for them. It is a direct experience. Once a leader discovers the truth of what is—oneness—and who they are, their consciousness shifts dramatically. Just as a thought experiment, imagine for a moment how you would lead and live in a world without separation; no separation

When you feel the need to get serious or work much harder, consider doing the following: Take a couple of minutes to argue for why you can’t have what you really want. Make up a country song title that describes your current issue and sing a line. Have a fifteen-second temper tantrum. Be sure to include your whole body and make noise. For thirty

When we move away from blaming, criticizing, and living in victim-villain-hero mode, we naturally invite others to do the same—without even saying a word. Step two in supporting others is to form relationships at work and home where all parties make a conscious decision to end blame and criticism and to take 100% responsibility for their lives,

We occasionally meet a leader who says, “I love change. It excites me.” But we discover that they’re talking about change they initiate or change that allows them to stay in control. Someone might say, “I love eating at a different restaurant every night and going on a different vacation every year. Doing the same thing more than once is boring to

CHAPTER SUMMARY Feeling All Feelings