Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation

it is not a question of how to get rid of jealousy. It is more a question of loving without conditions. Love that does not control or posses but honors the other’s freedom to live their own life.

In order to experience longer exchanges we need to cool down the sex act. A little excitement is fine, nothing is wrong in it, but then relax and take it easy.

As we begin to release these old feelings consciously (whenever we notice them arising), pieces of the past get healed.

And every strain creates tension, and tension creates a necessity, a need, to release.

Tantra masters also inform us that ejaculation is always preceded by the thought of ejaculation, that the origin of ejaculation is actually in the mind. Without the thought of ejaculation there is rarely an ejaculation (except when a woman gets overexcited and pulls an ejaculation from a man, as already mentioned).

To create the life of sustained, loving harmony that so many of us wish for, an important step is to keep emotion out of love.

This experience taught me what is most important when touching my wife: relaxed, loving presence toward myself.

Jealousy is about having the desire to possess and control another person;

The two are different. If you ask for sensations you will ask for things; you will accumulate things. But if you ask for sensitivity, the whole work has to be done on your senses, not on things. You are not to accumulate things. You have to deepen your feelings, your heart, your eyes, your ears, your nose. Every sense should be deepened in such a w