Never victimise yourself, no one will care, but your growth will stop — pain may earn you sympathy, but self-pity demands an audience you’ll never keep. Life rewards the ones who turn wounds into wisdom, not those who frame them for pity likes. The moment you cast yourself as the perpetual victim, you hand over the pen that writes your story, and worst of all, you start believing someone else is the author.
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In adults, self-pity turns darker and more dangerous as no playground rescue arrives. The feeling solidifies into victimhood. Somebody with a victim mentality believes life has screwed them over. Somebody with a victim mentality blames everybody else or “them” but takes no responsibility themselves. This is the quicksand of life. Once you have beco
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It’s one thing to recognize your hurt. It’s quite healthy, in fact, to see and appreciate your own emotional injuries. Especially because as adults, there is no tall, shadow-casting grown-up sitting just within earshot, ready to run to our aid the moment something hurts us. We have to be that adult for ourselves. Where this healthy self-empathy tur
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Defining yourself by your suffering is an effective way to keep suffering forever (ex. incels, trauma).
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Those we stone with our insults and shaming and denunciation are ourselves. Understand a person’s backstory, and you will realize, “That could have been me.” None of us are made of better or worse stuff than the rest. We all are life, doing what life does in the circumstances it is in. Yet neither is anyone a helpless victim of circumstance. That’s... See more