Never victimise yourself, no one will care, but your growth will stop — pain may earn you sympathy, but self-pity demands an audience you’ll never keep. Life rewards the ones who turn wounds into wisdom, not those who frame them for pity likes. The moment you cast yourself as the perpetual victim, you hand over the pen that writes your story, and w... See more
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If I were to listen to stories about “that bad person” or “poor me,” and sympathize with your plight by saying things like, “That must have been tough,” or “It’s not your fault at all,” it is true that you might get some temporary solace. And you might even have a sense of satisfaction that it was good to get counseling, or good to consult this per
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In adults, self-pity turns darker and more dangerous as no playground rescue arrives. The feeling solidifies into victimhood. Somebody with a victim mentality believes life has screwed them over. Somebody with a victim mentality blames everybody else or “them” but takes no responsibility themselves. This is the quicksand of life. Once you have beco
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