Psychotherapy research shows that when individuals feel listened to, they tend to listen to themselves more carefully and to openly evaluate and clarify their own thoughts and feelings. In addition, they tend to become less defensive and oppositional and more willing to listen to other points of view, which gets them to the calm and logical place w

That said, your responsibility is also to listen attentively to your partner's feelings, thoughts, and experiences without judgment or interruption. Be sure to empathize with their emotions and opinions, as this demonstrates a desire to understand rather than only be understood. This level of empathy cultivates a strong connection and mutual suppor

The truly good listeners of the world do more than just listen. They listen, seek to understand, and then validate. That third point is the secret sauce—the magic ingredient.