Superhuman Social Skills: A Guide to Being Likeable, Winning Friends, and Building Your Social Circle

It's about communicating who you are as clearly as possible, and removing barriers preventing you from understanding others with that same clarity.

By ensuring that you're always a net addition, even if you're not a huge one, you will dramatically increase the number of events to which you are invited.

Stories are best when they are brought up in context. That context can be time-based (“Guess what happened to me just now?”) or topic-based.

Your goal when telling a story is to convey something noteworthy about yourself in a way that is enjoyable to the other party or parties. You want for it to be a good time for them, and for it to reflect well upon you. This should be your primary motivation when you begin to tell a story.

Consider what about you makes you valuable as a friend, and whenever you're in a new social situation, think about which of your assets will most be appreciated by that group and work on conveying them. Do it early in the interaction and then move on to getting to know everyone else.

Someone who is comfortable interacting and befriending people in all strata of society will feel comfortable in nearly every situation, confident in his ability to add to any interaction of which he's a part. He'll have more opportunities to share what he knows with others, as well as the ability to learn from experiences that he may never have per

There are four main channels being communicated on at all times: content, meta, emotion, and status.

People ask questions when they want to hear more from you, and stop asking questions when they want less.

A master of communication must be able to have two major conversations (content and meta), while maintaining two minor conversations (emotion and status). This is no exaggeration.