Succulent SexCraft: Your Hands-On Guide to Erotic Play & Practice

I never cared for the M-word and now that I know the derivation of the word, I like it even less. The Latin roots of the word mean ‘to pollute with your hand.’

You can orchestrate energy by moving your hands about 3-10 inches above the surface of your body, as if you were stirring and swirling the air around you. Try circling your hands above your pelvis during your next climax and see if that keeps your orgasm rolling longer.

Your respiratory system is innervated by both your involuntary and voluntary nervous systems—it’s the only system in your body with that overlap. It’s where conscious choice intersects with unconscious programming. That means that your breath can become the ‘engine,’ pulling the ‘train’ of your state along behind. Anytime you want, you can become a

How do you deal with your wandering attention? By practicing awareness and paying attention to paying attention. Your attention is trainable. Like a muscle, it gets stronger with use. Most of us haven’t gotten much experience in teaching our attention to stay focused, but we can all become more skilled at attending. As you train yourself to attend,

Sensual sound silences your chattering, critical mind. When your brain is being distracted by the sound track of your pleasure, it can’t also be reading negative subtitles. Your usual thoughts and worries get drowned out by your audible pleasure.

Start with a pelvic rock, gently swaying your pelvis forward and backward. Next, coordinate your breath with your pelvic rock. Then add sound. Finally, add your internal pelvic floor muscles to the action. Once you can do all these together, you’re well on your way to enhancing every erotic experience you’ll have for the rest of your life. Better s

Initially, coordinating your actions may feel awkward and complicated, but with practice it becomes easy. Your breath, sound and pelvic floor will be so connected that they’ll always play nicely together. Anytime you take a big sounding breath, your inner muscles will naturally go along for the ride. You’ll find yourself effortlessly weaving sound,

Anxiety is just excitement without enough breath. This isn’t just a pleasing aphorism—it’s also true physiologically. The biochemical state of anxiety is literally the same as excitement, only with less oxygen. Which gives us a straightforward antidote to anxiety. When you’re feeling tense, simply deepen and slow your breathing. Use your whole ches

THE ROOT OF THE WORD ‘SEX’ actually means to divide or cut apart, from the Latin sexus or secus. It comes from the ancient idea that gods and people were originally androgynous and had to be separated into unisexual beings. Thus sex is about the desire to reconnect and end that separation.

SOLO & PARTNER PLAY Connecting Solo Sex and Love START YOUR EROTIC SESSION by cupping your genitals in one hand and placing the other on your heart. Breathe into your hands, heart and sexy bits. Visualize a circuit or river of light filled with love energy and sex energy. Say or think affirmations and positive intentions. During your solo-sex p