but learning demands a temporary surrender of pride. you can’t learn while protecting your image at the same time. you have to allow yourself to sound clumsy, to look unpolished, to admit you’re not there yet. it feels like loss in the moment — loss of dignity, loss of certainty — but it’s really the ground clearing itself so that something else... See more

I know now I was grieving something , the death of an ambition. I started attending reading events at Green Apple Books, my local bookstore, because it was something I liked in grad school, and I had to get myself out of the house. Going to those events was (is) a way of traveling without moving; they have afforded me an incredibly valuable... See more

Making life changes requires overcoming the discomfort of not knowing what will happen. Facing uncertainty, we make long mental lists of things that might go wrong and use these as the reasons why we must stay on our current path. Learning to have a healthy distrust of this impulse and knowing that even if things go wrong, we might discover things

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