Stop Self-Sabotage: Six Steps to Unlock Your True Motivation, Harness Your Willpower, and Get Out of Your Own Way
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Stop Self-Sabotage: Six Steps to Unlock Your True Motivation, Harness Your Willpower, and Get Out of Your Own Way
For example, Black-and-White Thinking might be more of a struggle for you in romantic relationships but not for work or family relationships.
Judy PhD Ho • Stop Self-Sabotage: Six Steps to Unlock Your True Motivation, Harness Your Willpower, and Get Out of Your Own Way
one helpful definition describes emotions as mood or feeling states that are in response to significant internal and external events that result in physical or psychological changes which influence our behavior.
Judy PhD Ho • Stop Self-Sabotage: Six Steps to Unlock Your True Motivation, Harness Your Willpower, and Get Out of Your Own Way
Exercise: Play Devil’s Advocate You are likely familiar with the expression “playing devil’s advocate”—essentially it involves taking the opposite argument in order to test the validity of a point of view. It’s all about learning to take another perspective and developing a routine to challenge your thoughts instead of taking them as is. The devil’
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In what way is this linking to Byron Katie’s work - with the opposite thought being true. So this morning, I start thinking: he doesn’t care, he hasn’t sent me messages with any sweet undertones/emojis. What’s the point, why am I waiting for him, he never shows up. Then I start thinking with this: I didn’t tell him even though I knew for months that I was moving back to CH. Of course I had my reasons but it is silly. Actually if he picked up on that, he should be a bit vexed. Ok so opposite is true: he cares a great deal. He talked the other day about the universe conspiring to bring him to Geneva, to bring him to my arms. He responded immediately about how can I step up. He was incredibly excited about the news. He sounded absolutely elated when we were on the phone on Tuesday. Then again, I was in a glowing mood, and I can feel I was passing this on despite the hangover. He is traveling for work. Most likely, as per the examples recently of people who weren’t very communicative (David, MLS), this “lack” I perceive has nothing to do with me.
It takes some effort to realize this might be the culprit in your self-sabotage, because it usually involves doing nothing different,
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But also, is procrastination one of the manifestations of this?
When you mind read, you inadvertently betray some of your deepest insecurities. You may think you aren’t very likeable or that others are trying to prevent you from success. In reaction to the perceived slight you may “reject” them first (withholding praise for your coworkers’ ideas as a way to “get back at them,” or beginning a series of passive-a
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This type of projection, imposing your own beliefs, thoughts, and ideas onto other people, and thinking that they might react in similar ways as you might in that situation, is a direct path to self-sabotage.
Judy PhD Ho • Stop Self-Sabotage: Six Steps to Unlock Your True Motivation, Harness Your Willpower, and Get Out of Your Own Way
It’s kind of how I felt about Carol this summer. I assumed I knew what she was thinking or rather not thinking/feeling about my situation. Turns out it had nothing to do with that at all. Indeed with SG, I want him to prove himself to me. But sadly, in this case, he needs to because he has let me down often. So what now. I know my trigger and I assume that I don’t know how he feels or thinks?
Descartes’ axiom that “I think, therefore I am” has, in our modern world, become “I am what I think,” so it is easy to see how thoughts can have an ever-powerful influence over our feelings and actions.