Stop Running Headfirst into Problems

You can treat a lot of “I am” problems this way, reframing them as simpler “I do” problems. Most traits we want to change have one or two simple actions at their core. Instead of “ stop being messy ,” clean. Instead of “ stop being so shy ,” meet people.

Finding the core action can release all of that diverted, shackled mental energy; once you find ... See more