Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm

When you truly get turned on, you find that more energy, more sensation, and more connection are available during sex. More turn-on during sex means more turn-on everywhere else, too. Turn-on is the energy of life, of flow, of being carried by a force greater than yourself. And the way we access it is simple: we consciously engage our own desire. I

Then there’s the fact that an All-Down OM can be a wonderfully sensational, nourishing, delicious experience in and of itself. We so rarely just let ourselves sink down into the sexy earthiness of our bodies that a fifteen-minute mud bath of sorts is sometimes just what the doctor ordered.

It makes room for everyone and every possibility.

Deciding you want to practice is the practice. Feeling the first stroke is the practice. Everything else is like icing on the cake.

Women are conditioned not to ask for too much; men are conditioned that it’s a sign of weakness to stop and ask for directions. As is the way with Slow Sex, we’re in the business of breaking down conditioning and rebuilding our sex from the foundations.

Now open your mouth and, using the most scientifically precise language you can muster, give your partner a quantitative recipe for fulfilling your sexual desire. Lay out exact instructions for how you want him to fuck you, with as much specificity as possible. What exactly do you want? Where? How often? For how long?

on the whole women tend to have a lot (and I’m talking a lot) of negative conditioning regarding sex. Much more than men do, in fact. Until we thaw out the iceberg of fear and shame that encases a lot of female sexuality in our culture—a thawing out that happens naturally when she is stroked—there is a tendency for her to return to her old habits o

When we OM, we strip sex down far enough that it doesn’t even look like “sex” anymore—and then we feel our way back in. We let go of everything we’ve ever been taught about orgasm, male/female roles, and how sex is “supposed” to look, and replace it with what feels good and right and pleasurable.

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