Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids
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Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids
No matter what their sport of choice, a child’s home team is their family. The home team can bend, it can accommodate, but it can’t be sacrificed.
Kim John Payne M.Ed. • Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids
A certain pace or volume of “stuff” may be tolerable for adults, while it is intolerable, or problematic, for the kids.
Kim John Payne M.Ed. • Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids
When we open up our child’s schedules, we make room for anticipation. Just as it’s hard to cherish a toy that’s buried in the middle of a pile, it is hard to anticipate something when we’re always busy, or when we’re trying to do everything now.
Kim John Payne M.Ed. • Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids
Requests may seem like “gentler” forms of communication, but with so many of them they’re very easy to ignore, and their uniformity make it hard for a child to know what’s really important.
Kim John Payne M.Ed. • Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids
parents need to relax in order to convey ease to their children.
Kim John Payne M.Ed. • Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids
Unchecked, our wills are like weeds, threatening to take over our whole spirits; invasive vines of desire for what we want (everything) when we want it (now). Anticipation holds back the will; it counters instant gratification.
Kim John Payne M.Ed. • Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids
Children love to be busy, and useful. They delight in seeing that there is a place for them in the hum of doing, making, and fixing that surrounds them.
Kim John Payne M.Ed. • Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids
Babies need interaction with parents and other humans; they need to manipulate their environment (to touch things, to feel and move them), and they need to do “problem-solving” activities (such as the eternal “where did it go?” problem-solving of peekaboo).3
Kim John Payne M.Ed. • Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids
Rituals loosen a younger child’s grip, relaxing their need to control small and seemingly random aspects of their day.