Play fighting only by mutual consent. If someone isn’t enjoying the roughhousing, then it has to stop. It’s

want to know how you feel . . . because your feelings are very important to me.”

hear crying. Do you need help or can you work it out yourselves?’ The first time I said it there was

“Instead of worrying about the boys becoming friends,” I explained, “I began to think about how to equip them with the attitudes and skills they’d need for all their caring relationships. There was so much for them to know. I didn’t want them hung up all their lives on who was right and who was wrong. I wanted them to be able to move past that kind

the misguided need to bolster a child’s ego—even

Do you remember what your parents did that increased the hostility between you and your siblings? Did they ever do anything that decreased the hostility?

The parent can help her see her potential strength.

Johnny Attacks his Brother, Attend to the Brother Without Attacking Johnny

Acceptance of their frustration: “This isn’t easy. It can be frustrating.”