“We agreed to leave the house at 9 am, but it’s 9.30 am now. I feel anxious. It’s important to me to support my sister. So I want to arrive in time to help out.” If you feel into the energy in this statement, you will get the sense that the woman is subtly teaching her man about the problem, her feelings, and what she needs. It’s very ‘heady’.

my coaching program, I have some of the most incredible, receptive women I could ever hope for as clients. And they all get this language wrong at first, and it takes a lot of practice to shift into being responsible. None of them are blaming on purpose, and many are horrified to realize that they have been blaming, because they want to be respectf

More relevant to the topic of this book, it would also have been so easy for my wife to avoid all of this, if only she knew how to be vulnerable without needing me to lead her to be. “May I share what I’m feeling?” “Yes.” “I feel anger. I’m stuck blaming you in my head and I can’t stop. Can I have some help?”

When men feel disgust for a woman, our bodies are telling us she is a waste of even a day’s worth of sperm. Yes, I know this sounds cruel, but it’s not me being judgmental, this is how our genes are programmed.

“I feel a bit angry.” “I kinda feel anxious.” Don’t do this. Your feelings are priceless. And it is OK if you are hurt. It’s OK if you are easily emotionally affected. Contrary to popular opinion, being easily emotionally affected doesn’t turn a man off. Not being vulnerable when emotionally affected is what turns a man off. And trivializing your f

A good man may ‘do the right thing’ when a woman shares her feelings, regardless of whether she is trying to get an outcome from him or not. But he will never do it out of Devotion unless she has no manipulative energy behind her communication. A man will feel it, no matter how subtle that manipulation is. He may not consciously know the difference

Own that happiness. Own that gratitude. Own that excitement. Own that horniness.

“May I share a problem I need help with?” “Sure.” “I’m telling myself a story that I’m unloveable, and I can’t stop. I feel so much shame.”

What is hot is when a woman will do whatever a man wants her to do only when he’s demonstrating devotion to her. Because a devoted man will be considering her needs and her feelings when he tells her to do things. He will listen to what she feels and adjust his leadership appropriately when necessary. Now her submission is communicating her self-wo