Destructive judgments are statements about yourself or someone else that tear them down and aren’t helping pinpoint the problem and fix it. They will be delivered with negative ‘attacking’ energy. When judging yourself in this way, it is commonly called ‘beating yourself up’. And whether destructive or constructive, all judgments are masculine.

But she got one thing wrong: She was energetically in a state of self-pity and self blame.

me, if she wasn’t into me, I would have been turned off instantly. Healthy masculine men want to feel that the woman they like really likes them too, so don’t play any of those hard to get games to make a man chase you. You’ll get chased by the wrong kinds of men. My wife was as into me as I was to her, and that is what made her willingness to walk

A man who leads should be respected, because he is giving his gift of devotional leadership to his woman. Just like a woman who follows should be cherished, because she is giving her gift of respect and submission to her man. Do a thought experiment; Let’s say you knew, with 100% certainty, that a man saw your needs and feelings as important as his

It’s ok to tell yourself these untrue stories in your head. We can’t just stop our monkey brain from thinking. Your monkey brain is like a monkey on cocaine. Good luck getting it to sit still and stop throwing poop everywhere. You can’t get it to sit still, but you can develop the awareness to observe that monkey brain in the moment telling you

And notice, I used an “I feel” statement in the example. Not a “It feels / that feels / this feels” statement. Women usually do this by saying things like “This feels good.” Or “That was amazing.” Remember, if you disown your feeling and say what ‘it’, ‘that’, or ‘this’ feels, you’ve turned your feelings into a judgment. And when you make a

When my wife shared her feelings through text, I couldn’t feel any of it. I couldn’t feel her pain. I couldn’t feel her receptivity. I couldn’t feel my connection to her. And I interpreted it all through my own filters, believing that she was speaking in a certain tone. Because it’s just words on a screen. A much better approach would have been to

More commonly, women do have some access to the feelings in their body, but spend most of their time not feeling those feelings because they are uncomfortable. Many women will resort to drugs, distraction (ie TV, friends, games, work, etc), and avoidance of situations that will trigger those feelings, to stay as numb as possible.

Whereas masculine men (the kind of men women really want) will be turned off by any manipulation. They will feel it, and they will probably make it clear in one way or another that they are not enjoying the experience.